Monday, March 28, 2022

Invisible Spouse Syndrome

 Yes, I have a husband and I’ve had him a long time, not that you would have figured that out from earlier blog series. I don’t remember ever mentioning him but that’s because he was never with me.  He’s never had the travel bug like I do. Plus, he had a really hard job with little time off. Understandably, he wanted to spend his few free days doing his favorite things. But he has always encouraged me to do my favorite things. He has gamely held down the fort while I went gallivanting, initially by myself and later, with my travel buddy, Wendy.

Now the dynamic has changed; every day is a day off! We’ve got lots of time to take new adventures. The Hubs is still not a huge fan of travel (yet), but he’s willing to give it a try and in a big way with this upcoming trip.

One of the many things I admire about him is that he is not on social media. No Facebook, no Twitter, no Insta, no Snap. And he wants to keep it that way. This means he’ll be lurking in the background on this blog. You’ll probably hear a bit about him, but you won’t see him. It’ll be like Vera, Norm’s wife on Cheers, and Maris, Nile’s wife on Frasier. You know, ISS – Invisible Spouse Syndrome.


 

Wednesday, March 23, 2022

Poking the Bear

 I know I’m not alone when I say I feel like a bear
emerging from a long hibernation, shaking myself awake to a changed landscape. For most everyone, it has been a stifling few years being largely confined to our own ‘caves,’ waiting out the worst of the COVID-19 pandemic. That’s not to say we’re past it yet (as we’re constantly reminded), but I’m nearing the end of my tolerance anyway. I watch stadiums full of people at sports events and see Facebook accounts of friends on-the-go. I want in! I’ll be cautious, but I’m eager to be someplace that’s not here.

As the world situation has changed radically in recent years, so has my and my husband’s life situation (ha! Did you even know I have a husband?  More on that later). I stopped working during the summer of 2018 -- the word ‘retired’ still sticks in my throat -- a little earlier than I had anticipated. Then, a year later and also earlier than planned, my husband retired too.

These developments involved an adjustment period (an understatement). Right when we were getting the hang of our new free-er lives, the pandemic hit. Like everyone else, we figured on only a few weeks of disruption, naively clinging to the travel plans we’d put in motion. Here we are, 2 ½ years later, poised to lumber out of our cave. 

Because I’ve got pent up travel steam, I’ve planned an ambitious trip. We’ll start by flying to Dublin, Ireland and then immediately boarding a bus to take us cross country to Galway. There we will meet up with West Ireland Cycling which is organizing our self-guided cycling tour. They book nightly accommodations, transfer our luggage, rent us bikes, then set us loose with instructions and maps to fend for ourselves. We'll be on our own, on bikes, trying to remember to stay on the left side of the road.

After this cycling tour ends, we'll take the train back to the town of Howth in east Ireland where we will spend two days before catching a flight to Marseille, France. We’ve got an apartment rented there for what I hope will be several days of bright blue sky and even bluer ocean. I look forward to restful days of walking the coastline, buying fresh fish and produce at the outdoor market, and pretending I’m French.

Next, we have a second cycling tour. This one leaves out of Avignon (a short train ride from Marseille) and is again, self-guided. It’s organized by the company Cyclomundo which, it seems, coordinates these types of trips all over France. I’m excited about cycling other regions with Cyclomundo if this experience goes well. 

We aren't leaving until May, so I have a little time to stretch both my traveling and blogging legs. I hope you join me here for the whole adventure.